Family Life Cycle
After two loving people got married,comes a family life, which is full of the most unpredictable twists of fate. Unfortunately, it's only in the fairy-tale after the wedding that "they lived happily ever after and died in one day", in reality, spouses have to face a huge number of difficulties and overcome the so-called crises of family life.
Psychology of marital relations includesquite a lot of different aspects, however, we can say with confidence that almost all couples face identical problems. Experts conditionally divide the married life of the spouses into certain stages, each of which has its own characteristics.
So, a certain amount of time thatthe couple lived in marriage, psychologists call the following: the life cycle of the family. It must be said that the family is constantly in development and is going through some sort of stages.
Everything begins literally from the first day, whenhappy newlyweds begin a joint life. Some argue that over time, feelings fade, others believe that "apple of discord" is a household problem, however, many families live up to the most golden wedding.
It should be understood that for each periodmarital life is characterized by its own characteristics and standard problems that almost all of us face at a certain stage. Let's look at each period of the couple's life in more detail.
The first life cycle of the family comes then,When a couple starts to conduct a joint farm and live in the same territory. Nowadays such a notion as "civil marriage" is quite common, it must be said that a man and a woman who are in a relationship without a stamp in the passport go through the period of "grinding" the characters during this period, just like a couple who are legally married. If a person has formed values of life and beliefs, you can safely change and adjust to the partner, because in this case, you will not lose your individuality in any way. Everyone before marriage had his own habits and traditions in the family where he used to live, therefore, when everything in the family life is not the same as a man has become accustomed to, he begins to feel that everything is different, and the first scandals and quarrels begin.
Often happens, that the following life cyclefamily comes when the couple is still not at all ready for it and the first stage has not passed, it begins with the birth of a child. The spouses have new roles and responsibilities. For this period is characterized by the emergence of jealousy of one of the spouses, who feels deprived of the attention of the second half. Most often, men are jealous of their wives, who now devote all their time to the baby, and women in turn can be jealous of the husband to work and his active lifestyle. A special influence in this period can be provided by the parents' families, who often interfere and try to influence the life of the young couple.
After this stage is over, it comeslife cycle of the family, which is related to the growing up and upbringing of the child. First, this is the preschool years of the baby, then the period when he is studying in junior classes, and then comes the transitional or adolescent age of the offspring. Now it is necessary for husband and wife to plan their time and allocate roles: who will help with studies, and who will take on domestic chores. The atmosphere in the family depends on how peacefully and diplomatically this question is resolved. Very often a couple has a second child, and with it a new wave of worries and difficulties that the couple have to face.
When the family has already overcome all these cycles inmatrimonial life, there comes a time when children become independent (they marry or simply start to live separately). Now the husband and wife will again be "alone" with each other and organize their own way of life. Alas, it often happens that it was the children that were the fastening link that unites the spouses and now, being together, they face old problems and disagreements.
The psychology of family and family relations is very specific, and I want to believe that loving people will be able to overcome all the difficulties and disagreements that await them on the path of living together.
